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Is Kinky Sex Safe When Pregnant? Here's What You Need To Know

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When you become pregnant, you probably have a million questions about having a safe and healthy pregnancy. In fact, you probably spend hours researching in order to come up with a game plan for rocking the next 10 months. Some of your research may be about the kind of sex you can (and can't) have during this period. Specifically, you might be wondering is kinky sex safe when pregnant?

In order to answer that question, you first have to define kinky sex. According to YourTango, kinky sex is an umbrella term that is most easily identified by a state of mind. That's right, it's not just about spanking, tying your partner up, trying horse play, or any of your secret 50 Shades of Grey fantasies.

Although all of that is included, kinky sex is simply all about embracing the part of your sexuality that is outside of the so-called norm of romantic, intercourse-based sex. Instead, those that identify as kinky simply need to shamelessly celebrate what turns them on, be willing to talk about it and ask for it, and, ultimately, enjoy themselves without shame.

As a self-identified kinky person, I can tell you right now that things are much more fun on this side of the sexual spectrum. But when it comes to kinky sex during pregnancy, you probably still have more questions than answers.

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The one thing to remember about kinky sex is that you should still take all of the necessary precautions as you would during more vanilla-style pregnancy sex. According to What To Expect, you should check with your doctor or medical practitioner if sex is off-limits during your pregnancy due to a high-risk pregnancy or any other factors. Most couples, however, are fine to resume regular sexual activities throughout pregnancy.

According to Parents, you may also want to remember that there are certain sex positions that are more comfortable for pregnant women . For instance, no sexual position is off the table during your first trimester. As you reach your third trimester, however, you will likely have trouble with any position that means deep penetration.

When it comes to incorporating kinky sex into your pregnancy sex routine, it is all about doing what naturally feels comfortable for you. A lot may depend on whether or not you were engaging in kinky sex before pregnancy. Certified sex educator, mother, and author of The Ultimate Guide to Sex Through Pregnancy and Motherhood Madison Young tells Romper that women should be careful with kinky pregnancy sex if it wasn't a normal part of their sex life before. If kinky was always something that you and your partner enjoyed even before pregnancy, however, then there is no reason why you can't continue to do so during pregnancy and beyond.

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"If kink was always a part of your sexual play, you might find that it quite easily makes its way back into your sex life," Young explains. "But take things easy and slow and check in with yourself and your partner and make sure to leave plenty of time for communication and negotiation."

Since kinky sex can mean almost anything and everything, you can slowly incorporate the elements you feel most comfortable with into your pregnancy sex. For instance, tying up your partner and riding him while you're pregnant might feel great. You can also have your partner blindfold you while they perform oral sex on you or be sure that they continue to pull your hair and spank you during doggy style. Whatever you do, make sure to check in with yourself and your comfort levels, and communicate about what you are and aren't enjoying with your significant other.