Real Resolutions: Kayla K. On Savoring Life Where She's At Right Now
January is a month filled with resolutions. On the first day of the month, as each of us wave goodbye to the previous year, we make way for all the things we plan to do once we have a fresh slate. We ask ourselves, What will I do better this year? How will I do better? What do I want to change about myself? About my behaviors? How can I improve? Resolutions made by women by and large get a bad rap. At face value, it's so easy to assume they'll all be the same: I'm going to lose weight!; I'm going to wake up earlier!; I'll travel! but if you take a look deeper, you'll notice just how raw and real resolutions made by women — especially moms — are. They're complex, multi-layered, and they're also incredibly honest.
Mothers aren't just making resolutions for themselves. They're constantly factoring in how the things they do and say and believe will shape and influence their children. Though moms are faced with these types of decisions day in and day out, the new year provides an opportunity to look at the year as a whole and to consider all the things they plan to change and improve on. For 2017, Romper spoke to 31 different moms all over the country in an effort to highlight just how diverse, bold, and exciting their resolutions are.
Name: Kayla Keigley
Age: 32 years old
City and state: Gig Harbor, Washington
Occupation: Public health manager, soccer mom, and entrepreneur
How old are your kids?: A 7-year-old girl, a 5-year-old girl, and an 18-month-old girl
This journey of parenthood seems to be going by quicker every single day and our girls are all in exciting stages filled with big moments — first words, first wiggling teeth, first goals in "real" soccer games — that some of the more simple moments seem to get overlooked.
What resolution do you think you're supposed to make? Why do you feel this way?: I feel like I am supposed to tell people that I want to lose the rest of this baby weight that's been hanging on. Isn't that just the status quo of resolutions? It just seems like everywhere I look at this time of the year all of a sudden it's diet central. I mean, the grocery stores went from sugar cookie ingredients at the front of the store to highlighting a slew of dieting products the day after Christmas. The fitness gurus on social media have upped their posting to multiple times a day asking all of us, "What are your goals for 2017? hire me and I'll help you make your dreams come true." From every direction, the weight loss and diet world seems to be coming at women... telling us that is what we need to be happier, more successful, sexier. No thanks.
What's your actual resolution this year, and why?: To celebrate more everyday moments with our little family. This journey of parenthood seems to be going by quicker every single day and our girls are all in exciting stages filled with big moments — first words, first wiggling teeth, first goals in "real" soccer games — that some of the more simple moments seem to get overlooked. It doesn't mean we won't celebrate the big moments — oh boy, we will still celebrate those! — but rejoicing with the girls and jumping up and down together over a new sight word learned, memorizing a new math skill, riding their scooter without falling down to the mailbox and back — those all deserve just as much of a celebration. My resolution for this year means I'll strive to find the joy and delight in all of the little moments. Because next year, they'll be a year older and a year closer to leaving our little nest.
What's the one resolution you won't make again?: To have a certain amount of money in the bank by the end of the year. While it was a great goal to drive some extra savings, it also felt like that meant that money was the goal. And really, it was a goal of an increase in comfort. I didn't like the pressure I put on myself. (And this was before we were married and had kids...)
What's one thing in your life you want to change but don't feel like you can?: To be honest, I yearn for more hours in the day, but I love sleep. I can't seem to make myself get up way earlier than the girls on a regular basis, but would love to have some extra "me" time.
What's one thing you did or didn't do last year that you forgive yourself for?: I didn't get a new stamp in my passport or the girls' passports, in fact, our 18 month old doesn't have hers yet. Typically, I always have a goal of one new stamp a year. We moved halfway across the country this past year for my husband's job and in the midst of adjusting to life with three kids in a new community, we just didn't make the time to get out and travel. Travel and experiencing the world is a huge part of our lives and we want to raise our girls to be little global citizens. I was kicking myself for awhile about not giving them a new experience last year, but the challenge of creating a new balance for us was truly more important.
Do you tell your kids your resolution? Why or why not?: They aren't at an age where resolutions make a lot of sense yet, but we are really open with our girls and talk to them about what we hope to do as a family. This year seems like a great one to be able to share my resolution, because I want them to help me celebrate each day.
What specifically do you want for your kids this year?: Happiness, health, bravery, and empathy.