Real Resolutions: Sa'iyda S. On Why She's Not Looking Back With Regrets
January is a month filled with resolutions. On the first day of the month, as each of us wave goodbye to the previous year, we make way for all the things we plan to do once we have a fresh slate. We ask ourselves, What will I do better this year? How will I do better? What do I want to change about myself? About my behaviors? How can I improve? Resolutions made by women by and large get a bad rap. At face value, it's so easy to assume they'll all be the same: I'm going to lose weight!; I'm going to wake up earlier!; I'll travel! but if you take a look deeper, you'll notice just how raw and real resolutions made by women — especially moms — are. They're complex, multi-layered, and they're also incredibly honest.
Mothers aren't just making resolutions for themselves. They're constantly factoring in how the things they do and say and believe will shape and influence their children. Though moms are faced with these types of decisions day in and day out, the new year provides an opportunity to look at the year as a whole and to consider all the things they plan to change and improve on. For 2017, Romper spoke to 31 different moms all over the country in an effort to highlight just how diverse, bold, and exciting their resolutions are.
Name: Sa'iyda Shabazz
City and state: Staten Island, New York
Occupation: Freelance writer, Babysitter
How old are your kids?: I have one son who is 3 years old
What resolution do you think you're supposed to make? Why do you feel this way?: Making more money, because as a single mom, I am responsible for myself and my son.
I could've made more money, but I used the extra time to spend with my son so I don't feel bad.
What's your actual resolution this year, and why?: To focus more on my career because I'm finally starting to make some headway.
What's the one resolution you won't make again?: Trying to quit something. It never works if you're not truly ready.
What's one thing in your life you want to change but don't feel like you can?: I wish I could articulate my feelings better.
What's one thing you did or didn't do last year that you forgive yourself for?: I could've made more money, but I used the extra time to spend with my son so I don't feel bad.
Do you tell your kids your resolution? Why or why not? I didn't, because I don't think he'll understand yet.
What specifically do you want for your kids this year?: I want him to continue to grow emotionally; it's still tough for him to handle his emotions.