Real Resolutions: Samantha D. On The Resolution She'll Never Make Again
January is a month filled with resolutions. On the first day of the month, as each of us wave goodbye to the previous year, we make way for all the things we plan to do once we have a fresh slate. We ask ourselves, What will I do better this year? How will I do better? What do I want to change about myself? About my behaviors? How can I improve? Resolutions made by women by and large get a bad rap. At face value, it's so easy to assume they'll all be the same: I'm going to lose weight!; I'm going to wake up earlier!; I'll travel! but if you take a look deeper, you'll notice just how raw and real resolutions made by women — especially moms — are. They're complex, multi-layered, and they're also incredibly honest.
Mothers aren't just making resolutions for themselves. They're constantly factoring in how the things they do and say and believe will shape and influence their children. Though moms are faced with these types of decisions day in and day out, the new year provides an opportunity to look at the year as a whole and to consider all the things they plan to change and improve on. For 2017, Romper spoke to 31 different moms all over the country in an effort to highlight just how diverse, bold, and exciting their resolutions are.
Name: Samantha Darby
City and state: Atlanta, Georgia
How old are your kids? 2 years old
I'm always upset that I'm not present enough with my daughter because I work from home with her all day. So I know I need to start waking up before her to tackle things. I need to stop procrastinating so I can have my alone time when she goes to bed and I need to work on breaking up the work hours with the rest of my day so my kid doesn't keep saying "did you check the dryer?" when my fiancé is looking for clothes in the morning.
What resolution do you think you're supposed to make? Why do you feel this way?: I feel like every year I'm supposed to make one about eating better, being more organized, and getting the laundry finished every day. I feel like there's a lot of pressure every year to be the absolute best! person! you! can! be! and while I like that idea, I also know that I'm human. And making a resolution like, "No sodas in 2017" is just setting me up for failure.
What's your actual resolution this year, and why?: I am going to work on time management, which I think will solve all of my problems. I'm always upset that I'm not present enough with my daughter because I work from home with her all day. So I know I need to start waking up before her to tackle things. I need to stop procrastinating so I can have my alone time when she goes to bed and I need to work on breaking up the work hours with the rest of my day so my kid doesn't keep saying "did you check the dryer?" when my fiancé is looking for clothes in the morning.
What's the one resolution you won't make again?: I will never put huge restrictions on myself again like "no sweets after 8 p.m." I don't do well with ultimatums and need some wiggle room so I can enjoy life and still pull off my resolutions.
What's one thing in your life you want to change but don't feel like you can?: More time. I need more time. I know a lot of that comes with time management, but ugh. It feels so overwhelming and scary.
What's one thing you did or didn't do last year that you forgive yourself for?: I didn't take care of myself as well as I should have. I need to carve out more time for me on top of everything else.
Do you tell your kids your resolution? Why or why not?: She's only 2, but I'd share this year's with her since I'm hoping it will influence her life positively, too.
What specifically do you want for your kids this year?: Oh man. I want her to be happy. And with such a tumultuous world waiting for us in January, I really, really want her to be safe, too. I want her to continue being her awesome little self and I want her to spread happiness and joy everywhere. I realize that's a lot to put on a kid, but she's way stronger than me. She's got this.