January is a month filled with resolutions. On the first day of the month, as each of us wave goodbye to the previous year, we make way for all the things we plan to do once we have a fresh slate. We ask ourselves, What will I do better this year? How will I do better? What do I want to change about myself? About my behaviors? How can I improve? Resolutions made by women by and large get a bad rap. At face value, it's so easy to assume they'll all be the same: I'm going to lose weight!; I'm going to wake up earlier!; I'll travel! but if you take a look deeper, you'll notice just how raw and real resolutions made by women — especially moms — are. They're complex, multi-layered, and they're also incredibly honest.
Mothers aren't just making resolutions for themselves. They're constantly factoring in how the things they do and say and believe will shape and influence their children. Though moms are faced with these types of decisions day in and day out, the new year provides an opportunity to look at the year as a whole and to consider all the things they plan to change and improve on. For 2017, Romper spoke to 31 different moms all over the country in an effort to highlight just how diverse, bold, and exciting their resolutions are.
Name: Shazmin Taylor
City and state: Bridgewater, New Jersey
Occupation: Social Strategist
How old are your kids?: 1-and-half year old
What resolution do you think you're supposed to make? Why do you feel this way?: Every year I feel like I should focus on my health. I'm already and health-and-workout fanatic, but around the beginning of the year there are so many articles, TV segments, and ads constantly telling me I can do better. After awhile, you sadly start to believe it.
I have started saying positive affirmations with him in the mirror each morning. He loves it! He kisses his reflection when we're done and it reminds me to be kind to myself as well.
What's your actual resolution this year, and why?: Self-care for my family. 2016, for most people, was a year of unwanted change. But in many ways, it gave me a sense of the need for community and more family bonding.
What's the one resolution you won't make again?: Every year I'm so focused on a certain dress size or weight. I can't do that to myself anymore.
What's one thing in your life you want to change but don't feel like you can?: I'm ending the year with a lot of anxiety about being a black women with a biracial family in America. I'm praying for a better year and to have the strength to move forward.
What's one thing you did or didn't do last year that you forgave yourself for?: Making more "couple time" for my husband and I. We both work very hard and are focused on our son, but we need to carve more time out for each other. We deserve it!
Do you tell your kids your resolution? Why or why not?: My son is too young to understand resolutions, but I have started saying positive affirmations with him in the mirror each morning. He loves it! He kisses his reflection when we're done and it reminds me to be kind to myself as well.
What specifically do you want for your kids this year?: Health and unconditional love. He really is a gentle giant and I want that to continue.