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Rory Feek Says His Daughter Doesn’t Ask For Joey Anymore & It’s Heartbreaking

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If you’ve been following the story of Joey Feek’s cancer battle, then you already know that the past few weeks (and months) have been agonizing for her family, and particularly for her husband, Rory. Joey died on March 4, leaving behind Rory and their 2-year-old daughter, Indiana. According to People, Rory Feek says his daughter doesn’t ask for Joey anymore, which sounds entirely devastating, until you understand the reason why, and then your heart will explode.

In his blog post, “less is more,” Rory explains that when Joey realized last November that she most likely was not going to beat her cervical cancer, she made a conscious decision to take a step back in Indy’s life so that their little girl — who has Down Syndrome — could start becoming more attached to Rory than she was to her. The thought of preparing yourself to leave your young daughter’s life is something that is so gut wrenching it borders on incomprehensible, but as Rory noted, by focusing on letting his relationship with Indy grow stronger, and by “[carrying] the pain on her own shoulders,” Joey tried to keep their daughter from feeling the heartbreaking impact of such a huge loss.  And it worked: according to Rory,

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As sad as that sounds, Rory noted that it is also a gift:

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But even though Indy might not realize how profoundly her life has just changed, Rory insisted that he wouldn’t let the memories she does have of her mother fade away:

Reflecting back on Joey’s unbelievably loving decision, Rory admitted that, had he been in his wife’s position, he probably would have “taken the low, easy road…I would’ve tried to make the ties with our baby stronger and her love for me deeper so that she wouldn’t forget me.” And he’s certainly not the only one — I can’t imagine the amount of strength it would take to not spend every second squeezing my children and soaking in every little ounce of love. But, by not doing so, she saved her family from even more pain, which is a remarkable gesture of selfless, unconditional love.

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That’s a pretty special legacy.