You've heard it in passing conversation and on the mommy message boards, but you're not quite sure what BD means. Seriously, the possibilities are endless. Baby diaper. Baby drop. Big d... dump? What does BD mean?! So you take to your trusty search engine and find that The Bump defines BD as baby daddy, or the biological father of a woman's child.
So now that you know what it means, how do you determine if your partner is one. Aside from sitting your partner down and making them take a thinly veiled internet quiz, what are ways to know your partner will be a good baby daddy?
Whether you're expecting or you're simply daydreaming about your current man as the father of your children, finding out whether he's going to be a good BD or not can be a real deal breaker. If you want kids, you want someone who's going to love, respect, and nurture those kids. If you're kid-oriented, you don't want to find yourself in a long term relationship with someone who isn't. How do you know if your guy will stand the test of fatherhood? It's easier than you might think.
Don't be afraid to daydream during this exercise. Sure, sometimes it's easy to get carried away — but if you allow yourself to visualize your man in these situations, you'll have a better grasp on whether or not he's cut out for kids. Scary? Don't worry. You don't need to be ready for kids to be able to decipher whether or not he's going to make a good dad.
1He Stands Up For What He Believes In
If your man isn't afraid to stand up for the things he believes in, chances are he's going to make a pretty good dad. Your child will grow up with a strong sense of values and beliefs, and an even stronger sense of doing the right thing. What's not to love about that?
2He's Had A Dog
He's had a dog, and a happy dog at that. If he can feed, bathe, walk, and love another living being, you're in good hands.
He knows what he wants, and he goes after it. Rather than becoming a couch potato Friday through Sunday, he has hobbies, interests, and personal goals. He works towards those goals rather than letting them slip away. He's going to carry this goal oriented mindset through fatherhood, and encourage his kids to do the same. You want your child to have goals, right? Right.
4He's A Fully Functioning Adult
To put it frankly, he's got his sh*t together. A job, a good credit score, a sense of responsibility. This shows that he's going to be able to figure out fatherhood just fine.
5He Helps Around The House
Adding a kid into the equation only makes life messier. Twice the amount of stuff to pick up, triple the amount of daily chores, quadruple the amount of responsibility. If your guy puts in the work around the house, chances are good he's going to continue this when there's another member of your little family. Not only will this help you in the long run, it'll teach your child the importance of pitching in.
6He Respects You
If he disrespects you, then he's not the guy, period. Let alone the guy you want to have kids with.
7He's Nursed You Back To Health
Whether from a hangover or a nasty bout of the flu, a dude who can nurse you back to health is a keeper and a potentially great dad. It shows he's not afraid to get up close and personal with someone who's less than perfect and who needs help.
Fixing the washing machine, playing a new game, installing an update on your phone — whatever it is, he's patient with you. Children require buckets of patience. If your man has a short fuse, it's probably not going to get any longer with an added member of the family.
9He's In Touch With His Emotions
Can he talk about things when he gets upset? Does he let you in when he's feeling low? How about reaching out for help when he needs it? A man who's in touch with his emotions and unafraid to share them is a man who'll make a good father. Why? Because parenting can be an emotional rollercoaster. Raising a child who knows how to express their emotions properly starts with parents who can do the same.
He doesn't need you to tell him every single thing to figure it out. Being intuitive, paying attention to another persons wants and needs? It's all important in a relationship, and when raising a child. Children can't always tell you what they want or need, and a good BD will be able to tune into that.
If you can count on him to behave himself at family dinners, to be there for all of your doctor's appointments, and to listen to you, then you can count on him to be there for your future child.
12He Likes To Have Fun
Whether he twirls you around in the kitchen, practices his comedy routine and awful dad-jokes on you, or takes you to putt-putt on a whim, he's got a good sense of a humor, and likes to have fun. Because raising a child is tough, and you're going to need plenty of humor and fun to get you through it.
13He's Not Afraid Of Adventure
Parenting is rarely a straight line from point A to point B. Things don't always go the way you planned, but with the right partner it doesn't matter. If your man is always up for an adventure, then he's going to be up for the adventure of parenting.