Getting intimate with someone requires a tremendous amount of trust and vulnerability. After all, sex can be pretty weird even when everything goes according to plan, let alone when there's a mishap. If you bladder is somewhat rebellious, you may have one fear in particular: what if you pee during sex? For persons with vaginas, this seemingly straightforward question has a lot of possibilities.
First, it's entirely possible to feel like you really need to pee during sex, only to find out you're dealing with a false alarm. It's all a matter of anatomy. As noted in Planned Parenthood, your urethral sponge (AKA G spot) grows and increases in sensitivity when you're aroused. This may increase the pressure on your urethra itself, making you feel like you need to leap from the bed and race to the bathroom. In general, however, this sensation is something that will pass in time without incident.
Next, you may experience some fluid leaking out during sex. For most people, you'll notice the fluid from your urethra and think: well, that's gotta be pee. But this may not be the case. According to New Scientist, some women release liquid at the point of climax, and it could originate from the skene glands, which may be analogous to the male prostate. (Other sources, as noted in Discover, claim this fluid is indeed urine. Female ejaculation can be a weirdly contentious topic.)
Lastly, coital incontinence is indeed a thing that happens to many people. As the name suggests, this refers to the loss of bladder control during sex. According to the Mayo Clinic, it may be a form of stress incontinence, in which people experience some urine leakage when laughing, exercising, or having sex. If this sounds like your situation, read on to learn about the many ways to manage this condition.