Before you became pregnant, you may have been enjoying a rocking sex life full of steamy nights filled with creative positions. Or maybe you were one of those lucky women who experience mind blowing orgasms during pregnancy. But no matter how incredible your sex life was before your little darling came along, it's hard not to wonder what intercourse feels like after you've had a baby. The truth is, things change down there and your lady parts may respond to post-pregnancy sex in a different way than you're used to for a while.
Childbirth isn't the only contributing factor to how sex will feel after delivery, there are many conditions that come into play. Everything from the way to gave birth to normal postpartum changes in the body can have an effect on your sex life as a new mom. One of the most common considerations is how the vaginal area is recovering after delivery. As OB-GYN Mary Jane Minkin told Women's Health magazine, the vagina is an expanding organ that will eventually return to its normal shape. This means that even though it had to stretch to deliver the baby, the muscle will regain strength (faster if you do kegels) over time. But it's not just vaginal deliveries that require healing time, women who've had C-sections also need to make sure their wounds have healed before resuming sex.
Even after your baby has been delivered, those hormones that showed up during your pregnancy are still lurking around for some time. Aside from the soreness of a vaginal delivery, those hormones can be the leading reason so many women report pain during intercourse, postpartum. According to What To Expect's website, "post-pregnancy hormonal changes can cause vaginal dryness, which may be the source of pain during sex." And the pain is real. To illustrate this point, Cosmopolitan magazine went right to the source and asked 30 new mamas what their first post-delivery romp was like. The response: a whole lot of "ouch."
However, there may be an easy remedy for this problem. There is no shame in using some lube for post-pregnancy sex while your body is healing, as Women's Day magazine suggested. In fact, this may be just what you need to ease that discomfort and make the experience more pleasurable.
Another factor to consider is if you had an episiotomy. While your body is healing from this procedure, sex may not be the most comfortable thing due to the tenderness in that area. Try taking it slow and using positions that allow you to control penetration and movement, as Baby Center suggested.
If you're ready to rev up your sex life after having a baby, make sure to take your time. Talk with your partner about what feels good and what hurts or makes sex uncomfortable. Communication, time, and honesty will help until you're healed and ready