After stirring up controversy for her decision to go public about having sex and breastfeeding at the same time, one mom is defending the practice she sees as natural, and, ultimately, NBD. For the uninitiated, Tasha Maile is the vlogger who's not afraid to mix parenting and pleasure. She shared that fact in a YouTube video nearly two years ago, but just this month appeared on the United Kingdom show This Morning to talk about why, for her, having sex while breastfeeding is nowhere near gross or wrong — no matter what her critics have to say on the subject.
Maile brands herself the "vegan breastfeeding mama" on her YouTube channel, Spiritual Tasha Mama. As the mother of three young children, she spends a lot of her time breastfeeding. And that includes when she has a sleeping baby attached to her breast, as she said in the video appropriately titled "DO I HAVE SEX WHILE BREASTFEEDING?" Here's how it goes down, as Maile described it:
We are pleasure beings, we are meant to enjoy sex and pleasure and all things can be orgasmic. I've had a lot people ask me if it's OK to breastfeed and have sex. From what I remember, I remember sleeping with my ex-husband and my son was on me breastfeeding and we would have sex from behind or something.
The video has racked up more than 4 million views since it went live in September 2015, and many of the comments were supportive. "This is natural and beautiful," one viewer wrote. Another, on the other hand, wrote that it was "creepy," and Us Weekly reported that some blasted the act as incestuous. Someone even started an (unpopular) online petition to get her on the sex offender registry.
But Maile said on This Morning July 10 that she was unsurprised by the backlash her admission elicited, and that she stood by that particular bedroom practice. "If the baby is OK, the baby’s OK," she said during the interview "They're not sitting there judging you and thinking 'my mom and dad are having sex.' It's a 2- or 3-month-old baby. They're so innocent."
If you ask me, the logic makes sense. A baby that young certainly doesn't have a sense of what's going on, and certainly does not want to be roused from a peaceful sleep and forced to stop eating. And why should the parents consider the presence of a baby who will have zero awareness or memory of the encounter a showstopper?