When my husband and I began developing our birth plan for our first child, one of the things we had to take into consideration was who would be with us during the birth itself. There are so many unknowns when it comes to delivering a baby — how long labor will last, whether interventions will be needed, if you will poop on the delivery table. Managing all of that on top of added family dynamics seemed like a lot to handle. We had to determine who to have in the delivery room with us, and it was a conversation that started long before my due date was approaching because we knew there would be hurt feelings no matter what we decided.
My husband and I come from very different families. His side takes their cues from him. If he indicates that he'd like them to be involved with something, they're happy to support. They respect his wishes, whatever they may be. My family dynamics are very different, and my family likes to be very involved in my life. They also have thoughts and opinions about how I should do things. We took all of these things into consideration when we decided who should be in the delivery room with us when our daughter was born. For us, we felt it was best to have no one with us aside from the delivering midwife and the nurse assisting. When we have our next child, we’ll set the same boundaries.
When making decisions about who to have present for the birth of your child, there are some questions to ask yourself that may make the decision easier.