For most hetero sex, the order is practically carved in stone: the woman comes first. But when you and your partner are trying to make a baby, does this advice still hold out? Who should climax first when trying to conceive, and does the order even matter?
There is at least some logic behind the idea of a woman finishing second during procreative sex. The “upsuck” theory, which states that uterine contractions may help suck up semen and move it into the fallopian tubes, may come into play, according to Very Well. As the site further explained, the sperm retention rate appeared to be higher when the woman orgasmed up to 45 minutes after the man finished; however, the retention rate was also higher when she came a minute or less before him. Basically? The jury is still out on this idea.
But female orgasms must have some correlation to your ability to conceive, right? In some depressing news, it may not matter whether you finish first, second, or at all. According to a 2013 study in Animal Behavior, there was not a correlation between female orgasm rate and their number of offspring. That’s right: it may be unlikely that female orgasm enhances fertility at all. The male orgasm is pretty crucial, of course, but it may not be necessary for women to get off at all. It may help, but more research needs to be done for confirmation first.
Although this may be great news for some people (anorgasmic women who are trying to conceive, for instance): most women probably still want to have at least some fun along their path to conception. That said, it does not appear that female orgasm in any way hampers your chances of fertility. After all, the most important thing to do when trying to conceive is have sex. A lot. According to WebMD, having sex daily, or even every other day, is an excellent way to boost your pregnancy potential. And what will make you want sex more than excellent orgasms? Whether you have one before, after, or at the same time as your partner, you can use them as a way to increase your frequency — and potentially your chances of conception.