One of the most cliche things new moms hear is "Baby changes everything." If I had a nickel for every time some well-meaning person told me to get ready for life to be turned upside down, I'd have a whole bunch of nickels. One thing I wasn't quite ready for, though, was how much baby would change my body. My husband wasn't quite ready for that either, and there are several things I wish my partner knew about my postpartum body, without me having to say it.
I have always been curvy, sporting a big butt and big hips. I was never super thin, but never particularly heavy, and it was a good look for me; I liked it and felt comfortable. I was confident in how my body looked and comfortable with its curves and familiar with how my clothes fit. In other words, body positivity and body confidence weren't issues and I enjoyed the form that carried my brain around.
After my first pregnancy, however, it all started to change. Now, and thanks to three pregnancies, my waist has outgrown my hips, and my breasts no longer fit in my pre-baby bras. For me, my new body has been one of the more difficult #MomLife things to accept and adapt to. When you go through life with a certain body type, enjoying more than 30 years of having things a certain way, a sudden change can make you feel like those "things" aren't yours anymore. In other words, it takes some getting used to. All the changes have been difficult for my partner to wrap his head around, too, but I wish there were a few things he knew about my postpartum body without me having to tell him.