I never planned to be a formula-feeding mom, so when I had to use formula due to my undersupply my baby's food allergies, I felt like I failed. Then I watched my babies thrive and started to feel like I was thriving, too. I not only made peace with using formula, I grew to love it. I feel like people, especially breastfeeding moms, assume a ton of things about me based only on the fact that I feed my baby formula. I want to set the record straight, because there are a few things this formula-feeding mom wants breastfeeding moms to know.
First of all, contrary to what you might think, I don't hate breastfeeding. I honestly loved it, especially once I figured things out and stopped trying to attain the impossible goal of exclusive breastfeeding. Feeding my oldest son formula actually helped me breastfeed longer. For me and for many other parents, formula feeding and breastfeeding are not mutually exclusive. I support you in your choice to breastfeed, in public, in private, and for as many months or years as you want to. Seriously.
I also don't hate formula, either, or feel ashamed to formula-feed my baby. I honestly love it. So, please don't feel sorry for me or assume that the only reason I formula feed is because I lack education or support to breastfeed. Also, please stop telling me that "breast is best" or that I can try again "next time." Saying those things feels seriously shaming and are in no way helpful. There's so much more to motherhood than how we feed our babies, and so many things I want you to know, from one mom simply feeding her baby, to another.