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11 Reasons Not To Be Embarrassed If You Don't Like Blow Jobs

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Sex isn't a requirement in any relationship, but certain aspects can feel like one. Like blow jobs, am I right? Pick up any magazine, and it's full of all the tricks to giving out of this world blow jobs, and it seems to be commonplace for women to give men oral sex more than they receive it. Obviously this shouldn't be the norm, especially if you don't like giving blow jobs. Don't let the haters get you down, there are plenty of reasons not to be embarrassed if you don't like blow jobs.

I mean, let's face it. If you're a sex positive woman, you shouldn't be embarrassed about disliking any sexual act. But a blow job is on its own level. To me, there are few things more intimate than putting someone else's penis in your mouth. Penises aren't necessarily gross or unsightly, it's just that pleasing someone's genitals using nothing but your mouth is a pretty close thing to do, right? So while I feel like you have every right to dislike every sexual act there is, I can definitely understand why some women hate blow jobs. And, I understand why you might feel embarrassed about that. The world of sex-talk has put a lot of emphasis on blow jobs ― making sure you're doing it right, giving you tips to make it better, and making you feel guilty if you don't do it.

Blow jobs have been used as bargaining tools, as apologies, and as promises, but you know what? If you don't like them, you don't like them. And I don't blame you one bit, especially with these 11 reasons not to be embarrassed about not liking blow jobs.

1. They Require A Lot Of Work

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It's called a blow job for a reason, am I right? Blow jobs are not easy and the act of giving them takes a ton of work. You're using your hands, your mouth, your tongue, and still trying to remember all those tips you read to make him cum harder and faster than ever before. Too much work, not enough reward.

2. Semen Is Not All That Appetizing

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Even if you're not a swallower, you're going to end up with some semen in your mouth and it's just not a meal I'd request on my last day on Earth, OK?

3. You Prefer Penetration

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Why even bother with blow jobs if you're just ready to take it straight to home plate? Unnecessary and a waste of time.

4. Sometimes They Take Forever

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Sure, sometimes a blow job takes all of three seconds before your SO is done, but sometimes they take for-ev-er. You can stay in the zone pretty well, but there comes a point during almost every blow job where you think, "dear God, enough already."

5. They Can Be Intimidating

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It's no good anymore to just lick up and down the shaft, right? Now you have to use your hands, you have to try new tongue techniques, you have to figure out what to do with the Christmas ornaments hanging beneath the tree ― it's just a mess. And any woman who has ever seen a man get hit in the crotch is slightly terrified to touch a penis for fear that they'll demolish the whole thing. Not worth it.

6. Your Jaw Hurts

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I read way too many stories as a teen about girls having their jaw lock up during a BJ to ignore this. Blow jobs take a lot out of your jaw and mouth, and when you're trying to hide your teeth behind your lips, you feel that for days afterward.

7. They Aren't Required

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Best reason to not be embarrassed, right? Blow jobs are not required. If your partner thinks he can guilt you into giving him a blow job, please school him on what it means to be in a sex positive, consensual relationship, and then dump him.

8. They're Messy

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So much saliva. And then it's on your hands, it's on your chin, and if you don't have anything to pull your hair back with, you're totally screwed.

9. They're Uncomfortable

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Being on your knees for a prolonged period of time? Not a great position. Neither is trying to balance yourself on a bed or straddling your SO while you're head down like an ostrich.

10. They're A Logistics Nightmare

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How are you supposed to use one hand on the shaft and one hand on his undercarriage, plus bob your head up and down without losing momentum, and balance yourself? HOW?

11. Because You Don't Like When Your Partner Gets Too Enthusiastic

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Every guy is guilty of this, even if they try and rectify their behavior. Sometimes they just get a little too enthusiastic and hands on the back of your head, shoving you down towards a penis? Not always fun. Giving a blow job requires some ground rules and who wants to bother with that?