While every person experiences nursing in their own way, I have yet to meet anyone who has honestly and truly loved every minute of breastfeeding. I have, however, met plenty of women who hated every baby-chomping, nipple-aching, absolutely exhausting second of it. That's not to say that breastfeeding is always completely horrible, because it's not. It is to say that breastfeeding can definitely be completely horrible for some mothers who experience complications or, you know, just don't like it. Which is why,whether you think it's always really awful or just sometimes the absolute worst, hating breastfeeding doesn't make you a bad mom.
It seems like every aspect of motherhood has some sort insidious aspect of it, designed by a patriarchal society to make women feel guilty for feeling anything other than what some nebulous entity has decided they should feel, or making a decision that doesn't follow some pre-determined path. Going back to work after having a baby but also being a stay-at-home-mom; Having one kid or having more than one kid; Enrolling your child in sports or not enrolling your child in sports. And, of course, breastfeeding and not breastfeeding. Perhaps more than any other parenting decision a mother may or may not make, breastfeeding has the unique distinction of falling into several sociologically complicated (and annoying) categories: food and eating, women's bodies, and parenthood. I'm sure there are more but, ugh you guys, I can only get so depressed, ya know?
However, when one shovels all the aforementioned nonsense away and decides not to adhere to certain standards that fictitiously dictate what makes a "good" mother, and what doesn't, one can easily see that loving breastfeeding is not a requirement for being a wonderful, loving mother, and that hating breastfeeding in no way precludes the same.