As this point in life, between your own dating experiences and those of fictitious characters, you’ve probably learned that there are guys who just shouldn't be in relationships. You know them — the ones don’t care enough to clean the leftover pizza off the floor when you come over. But then there are those who are actually worthy of your time, affection, and — potentially — your love. These are the grown-ass man that every straight woman strives to find. But, what are the signs you're dating a grown-ass man and not just another boy?
Luckily, the answers aren't as illusive as the men they describe. There are a few must-have qualities that every grown-ass man posses, and it’s worth keeping an eye out for them early on in a relationship. As opposed to dating a man-child, dating a grown-ass man makes you feel valued, important, and pretty damn special.
Unfortunately, many women settle for less because they don't think that grown-ass men exist, and though they may be few and far between sometimes, they're certainly out there. Take it from someone who has been happily married to my own grown-ass man for over two years now. Real men definitely exist. And they would be lucky to date someone like you. If you’re trying to figure out whether that applies to the guy you’re with, here are some surefire signs that you’re dating a grown-ass man.
1. He's Defined The Relationship
You don't have to have a drawn-out conversation, because you already know where you stand. When you're dating a man, he will make his intentions clear, right from the get-go. If you're his girlfriend, you'll know it. No more guessing games.
2. He's Self-Motivated
A grown man has his sh*t together and knows how to get it done. He has real life goals and is making progress towards them.
3. He's Not Jealous
He is secure in your relationship and doesn't feel threatened by other friends you may have or your past relationships.
4. He Says What He Means
Relationships can be confusing. A real man knows this and won't beat around the bush. When you're having a conversation, he says what he means without any manipulation or disguising.
5. He's Drama Free
Drama shouldn't even be a word in his vocabulary. Boys make drama. You don't need that in your life.
6. He'll Talk About Anything
A real man makes you feel comfortable enough to talk about anything. There shouldn't be anything you feel you need to hide from him, and vise versa.
7. He Treats You Well (And Enjoys Doing So)
Date nights should be enjoyable for him too, not just out of an obligation to satisfy you. A grown-ass man will be proud to be with you.
8. He Keeps His Place Clean
No more empty beer cans and remnants of last night's party. A real man knows how to take care of his living space and takes pride in its appearance. He may have a stack of dirty dishes in the sink every so often, but who doesn't.
9. He Doesn't Need To Be Babysat
You shouldn't feel the need to check in with him or remind him to take care of himself. He will earn your trust and prove that you can respect him through his actions, not just his words.
10. He Owns His Mistakes
No matter the age, men mess up. The difference is a grown-ass man apologizes when he's messed up and actually change his behavior after the fact.