Parenting isn't an exact science. There's no manual and, honestly, the only experience you can be sure about when becoming a parent is feeling exhausted. Even if your kid sleeps through the night, every night, the work of keeping them alive and happy throughout the day will totally wipe you out. But for some parents, crying it out is an option they consider when there's too many midnight back-rubs and they're tired of the "find the pacifier" game occurring four times a night. It's sleep training that works, but there are times you shouldn't cry it out because, hello, this is parenting and nothing is straight forward and simple.
I waited a long time to try crying it out with my daughter, and I was pleasantly surprised at how easy it was and how she became a sleeper in just three days. So many people told me it wouldn't work or that it was cruel, but I refused to let mommy guilt set in. Because you know what? Crying it out isn't about leaving your child devastated in the bedroom so you can watch Netflix in peace. You aren't abandoning them or forcing them to sleep 14 hours in a row without waking up. You're teaching them to self-soothe. My daughter puts herself to sleep and rarely wakes up in the night. If she does, I know it's because she needs me, not a back pat or a rock in the chair to get herself back to sleep.
But there are 11 times when you shouldn't cry it out because, trust me, it's just not going to work. Life often gets in the way and sometimes your baby just isn't ready, so take note of these times so you can make a plan to try crying it out when everybody in the house is committed and capable of making it happen.