Three months into my life with my now-toddler, I was starting to feel like I had found my mama groove. We'd been nursing successfully for weeks, I'd mastered wearing him in our ring slings, and I was even managing to get a decent amount of sleep (thanks to co-sleeping and dream feeding). Then, after hosting a group of friends to meet the baby, someone tagged me in a photo and I noticed something weird. My hairline looked different: sparse and somewhat of an unusual shape than what I was used to. Instantly, thoughts every mom has when suffering postpartum hair loss began to flood my mind.
In hindsight, I suppose I should have seen it coming. I knew that pregnancy makes your hair grow faster and thicker, plus you lose less of it. So it makes sense that once you're not pregnant any longer, that extra hair would have to go somewhere. Still, since postpartum hair loss typically happens around three to six months after you give birth, it's easy to get lulled into thinking that maybe your lush pregnancy mane might just be your new normal. That's what happened to me, at least, and I felt so misled.
Fortunately, a few members of my long-distance and digital mom squad quickly filled me in on how to deal with it, and a fellow Black mama introduced me to the magic that is Jamaican black castor oil. I don't know if it works for folks without African hair textures, but it definitely helped us stem some of our breakage issues while our hair got back to its normal, non-pregnant state.
Because yes: things do get back to normal eventually. A few weeks later, at a friend's wedding, I was tagged in another photo. While the rest of me looked a little silly (I blame the cupcakes and sangria), my hairline looked intact. Phew. Fear not, new mamas: while some things in your life may never be the same again, your hair probably will be. However, until that day comes, you're totally normal if you find yourself thinking the following things: