Sex, though something I enjoy, isn't something that I talk about all that often. It's not that I'm a "prude" or that I think talking about sex is dirty, because I'm not and I think talking about sex is healthy. It's just that I keep my personal life, you know, personal. So when I started to feel physically ready to have sex again after giving birth, I was nervous. No one seemed to talk about postpartum sex, so I had to find my own way "back into bed" and rather blindly. That's why I'm here; because there are things no one will tell you about postpartum sex but I will, because being left in the dark, for me, was oddly enlightening in a round about and somewhat difficult but eventually helpful way.
I didn't expect sex to feel like it did before I had kids. I knew it would be different, I just didn't know how. It felt sort of like my first time all over again, if I'm being honest. I was nervous and I didn't know what to expect from myself or my partner. Although sex can be better after baby, it's not going to be immediately amazing and, honestly, it may take some time to get back to feeling like your "sexy" self.
The changes our bodies go through during pregnancy and birth are incredible, sure, but they inevitably change a bit. Our emotions, our mentality, our entire life is different after we have a baby change as well, so physical changes are not the only manifestations pregnant women endure and get, for lack of a better sentiment, "used to." A different body, a different meaning, and different circumstances all mean that postpartum sex is going to be a different intimate experience. Yes, it can and will still be an amazing experience, but it probably won't be the same as it was before.
Part of finding your way back into bed is understanding some of the ways that postpartum sex might be different. So, in the spirit of sharing secrets, here are ten things no one will tell you about postpartum sex, but I will. You're welcome.