13 Dads Reveal What It's Really Like To Feel Their Baby Kick For The First Time

I often think of the unique experience of being a non-gestational parent, particularly a dad who lives with a pregnant partner. While experiencing pregnancy firsthand is incomparably bizarre, it's got to be neat and strange to watch someone close to you go through it. I mean, you're watching it go down, but you'll never really know what the other person's feeling. One of the only pregnancy experiences both partners can feel is the baby kicking, so I wanted to ask dads to share what it's like to feel their baby kick for the first time.

I can still remember the moment I felt my growing baby kick for the very first time (but I can't remember the first time I felt my second baby kick, because that's pretty much the story of second pregnancies in a nutshell). I was on the subway on the way home from work (thankfully, mercifully, in a seat). I was reading when, all of a sudden, there it was. It was faint but distinct, like a little fish flopping around inside of me. It wouldn't be for another few months until I would be able to share that feeling with my partner, and I was so excited for him to share in that moment as well.

But here's something you should know about my husband (something I should have realized about my husband): he's not especially effusive in his emotions. He's the opposite of me in that sense. He's stoic and a little bit brooding and serious. Our marriage is sort of like if Ned Stark from Game of Thrones was married to one of the bubblier characters from My Little Pony. It's weird, but it works.

So when I put his hand on my abdomen to let him feel our baby move, all I got was a mildly amused "Oh." I wasn't hurt or sad, but I felt a little deflated. I had been expecting an emotional reaction like I would have had, but what I got was a reaction in keeping with his personality. So more like this:

I wanted to know what other dads felt when they felt their babies for the first time. Here's what they had to say:


"A really long, profound scream for every reason all at once."


"She was kicking my wife's belly, but it felt like she was kicking my ass. It was like: POW! This is real, I'm real, you're going to be a dad, and we've made our first contact. Hi! I'm Juliet. How are you?"


"I cried. We had lost a baby at 13 weeks previously, before I'd felt a kick, and so this felt like a really big milestone and reassurance that everything was OK."


"I actually didn't believe my wife that I would ever be able to feel it. I thought that was a myth that you could feel a kick through. And for a while it was supported by the fact that she'd be like, 'Ooh! The baby kicked! Feel!' and then the kicking would stop. So it was like, 'Yeah, OK, sure.' When it finally happened I was shocked."


"Can I talk about the first time I saw the baby kick instead? I jumped across the room and was ready to call a priest. There's a video."


"It was really exciting, so I kept poking her belly to try to make him kick again. Finally my wife was like, 'Dude, you've gotta chill.'"


"It was pretty cool. There wasn't all that much to it."


"It was kind of creepy. It was nice, but you're just not used to something poking at you from inside another person. I'd also been watching a lot of body horror at the time, so that's probably where my head was at."


"Life-changing. I can't even describe it."


"Weird! It felt like a novelty. I probably should have been bowled over by awe for the power of human life, but it felt more funny than anything."


"I actually felt the first kick by accident. I was kissing my girlfriend's belly and our baby kicked. I don't know if it was a, 'Hi Daddy!' or a, 'Stay away from my mom!' but it was really awesome."


"I was surprised. I think I said, 'That ain't right'. She thought it was funny."


"It felt like victory. I never thought I'd be a dad (long story) and, even more than the positive pregnancy test and the ultrasounds, that kick was like my kid saying, 'Yes you are!'"

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