Co-parenting is hard, whether you're in a relationship or going through it with an ex. It's highly unlikely that you're going to find yourself parenting with someone who has the exact same ideas, thoughts, and parenting opinions you do, which leaves a lot of room for miscommunication, anger, and resentment. Not to mention trying to co-parent without contradicting each other and leaving your child confused. It can be done, but you need to have patience, determination, and the resolve to not let your kid know that you and your partner (or ex) have very different parenting skills.
I'm divorced and, honestly, co-parenting with my ex seems to be a roller coaster ride. Some weeks we agree on everything and can make unified decisions for our daughter, and some weeks we argue over everything because we let our egos get in the way. I'll be honest, there are many times where I think co-parenting is just hell, no matter who you're doing it with, and when your co-parent refuses to understand your side of things, it makes it that much worse.
But contradicting each other? That doesn't help either. Not only does it breed problems between you and your co-parent, but it puts your child in a tough spot, too. You want them to respect and listen to both of you, but if you're constantly contradicting each other, your kid doesn't know which way to turn. In fact, they can easily realize that pitting you and your co-parent against each other may get them their way in every scenario.
Trust me, you don't want anything like that to happen. With these 13 ways to co-parent without contradicting each other, you can find a middle ground with your co-parent and make the decision to honor your parenting differences while still keeping your child within their limits and boundaries.