For the sake of clarity, I'd like to start by saying that I know plenty smart, driven, child-free women who make excellent use of their time and energy and who don't need a kiddo to help them prioritize their life. I also know um, a few women (myself included) who make very, very different decisions about our time and energy, now that we have a kid or kids. Thinking back to my pre-baby days makes me realize that I sent so many ridiculous texts that every mom must send before she had a baby and, you know, became a mother.
Of course, it's not beyond the realm of reason to say that I'm probably glamorizing the past; but strolling down memory lane and looking back on my child-free days feels like watching a montage of beach movies and country music videos. Like, I know there was a lot more to it than just sunshine and solo cups and denim cut-offs, but for some reason, that's kinda where my head goes and is hell-bent on remaining. I seriously don't think I've worn denim cut-offs since high school, so I don't even know where some of those images are even coming from, but they're a thing so, you know, here I am.
Still, the fact remains that many of us think of our child-free days as a time in our life with more freedom and spare time than our now-exhausting, parenting days allow (side note: if you are a parent of a young child who doesn't feel this way, please slide into my DMs. I want you to be my life coach). And while I no longer have my phone records that date back to my pre-kid days, I've still managed to put together some samples of what some of that correspondence probably looked like, that are in no way* exaggerated.