Regardless of age, children are prone to want to do everything themselves, right down to the clothes they wear. Although your knee jerk reaction may be to keep a handle on what your kid wears (a tutu in the middle of winter isn't a great choice, no matter how excited they are, it might be a good idea to take pause. But before you rule out all of your kiddo's impractical decisions in the matter of what to wear, knowing the different messages you send when picking out your kid's clothes is important.
When you take full control over what your child wears, you could unintentionally be letting them know that you don't approve of their choices or that you don't trust them. Of course, not every message is a negative one, and believe it or not not, there are ways to pick out clothes for your child in a positive and empowering way. In an interview with Romper, Maureen Healy, author of Growing Happy Kids, suggests that choosing clothes is very dependent upon your child's age and development stage. There are ways to do it well and ways to do it in a potentially harmful way.
Parenting is a strange mix of empowering your child to make their own decisions and trying to avoid the constant embarrassment that often accompanies bringing a small child, well, anywhere. Whether you're a "relaxed" parent who has let their child choose their own clothes since they were able to put them on, or prefer for your kids to look at least a little bit put together, you're sending your child messages each time you do or don't pick out their clothes for them.