When you first become a mother, it can feel like you’ll never know enough about how to raise your baby right. Personally, I have no idea how moms were able to figure out anything before Dr. Google and online moms group were things, but they have my deepest sympathy and admiration. When I was pregnant and had a newborn, I had questions about everything, and I second-guessed all my decisions, from using a nipple shield to encourage my daughter to latch (something that is discouraged by many lactation experts), to choosing which solids to introduce first and when. (Those, for the record, are two of about 47 billion decisions I agonized over.)
There were times when it felt absolutely nerve-wracking to be a mother. What if I did something to ruin my baby girl? Had I given her too many doses of ibuprofen this week? Did she eat enough vegetables? Why wasn’t she sleeping through the night yet? All the questions, none of the answers. Gradually, However, I began to gain confidence in my decisions as a parent. This wasn’t because I was sure I was right. It was because I started to understand that “right” is a relative term in parenting (and in most other things, it turns out). And I tried to do my best, and I started to trust that I knew what was best for my child... and trusting that my child would likely be seriously, actually, totally fine and not irrevocably scarred for life if I didn't know what was best at all times.
Before I had my daughter, I was an opera singer for years. In my years of studying singing, I had a teacher introduce me to the stages of competence we all go through whenever we’re learning new skills. I feel like this set of stages does a great job explaining the process of becoming increasingly confident in your ability to raise your kid without messing the whole thing up.