Some relationships end after a big fight — a showdown over one thing or another, something from which the two of you can't recover. Other relationships, however, end softly, almost gently, when you just wake up one day and realize that you two are near-strangers living side-by-side, rather than partners in a healthy relationship. It's sad and disappointing and about a million other things any time a relationship ends, but maybe even more so when it ends due to little habits that gradually drive your partner away. These are things when, looking back, you realize are silly and minor and could've been avoided. Habits can be hard to break, but in order to even try, you need to know that you have these habits in the first place.
As you've likely heard once or twice before, communication is key in any relationship, but especially between you and your partner. "When two different people come together they have things that just get under their skin. Those pet peeves should be addressed as soon as they are seen," licensed mental health counselor Montigus Jackson tells Romper by email. "Not addressing them will cause frustration and resentment, which will eventually lead to a breakup. When people do not speak on the things that bother them they have the ability to get pushed away."
If your partner tries to talk to you about one of your habits, it can be difficult to listen and attempt to make behavioral adjustments. Remember that, too, when you bring up their habits. Changing your way of doing things can be difficult, talking about these things can be difficult... but if it might save your relationship, it just might be worth it.