Parents of today live in a different world, with different obstacles, than parents of previous generations, which is one of the many reasons why I am constantly re-thinking my parenting strategies. For example, my parents grew up wandering freely all day and night, but I wouldn't dare let my kids out of sight. Of course everyone has their own styles and philosophies, but I truly believe I have a few solid reasons I'm a helicopter mom and, well, I'm honestly not even a little bit sorry about any of them.
To put it lightly, my childhood was unstable, unhealthy, and generally traumatizing in a verity of ways. My parents never purposefully set out to self-destruct after the divorce, nor did they intend to plant the deeply-rooted issues I still have branching out of me, but it's the way my history was written. Not all of it was unpleasant, and I did have reigning moments of stability and happiness, but when I think back on those years — the years filled with uncertainty and depression — I can better understand why I've tried to be so different with my own children.
When I became a new mother I never thought I'd hover, or "helicopter," but in my eyes it's better than the opposite extreme from which I came from. It's hard to articulate why there's not much in between for me but ,well, there just isn't. I'm frigid or volcanic, attached or detached, and utterly protective or quick to feel nothing at all. Over the years I've realized my need to have a hold on everything my children say and do stems from the turbulence in my own life. I mean no harm, and only want the best for my babies, which is just one of the many reasons why I'm just not sorry for all the hovering.