My partner and I swore nothing would change once our first baby arrived. We tried, hard, to maintain a certain level of intimacy once I was given the green light from my doctor after delivery. Still, regardless of promises made and the best of intentions, there was no denying how much had changed. Not all of it was bad, though. In fact, there are so many positives to post-baby life. There's also more than a few things no one is saying about postpartum sex that I wholeheartedly believe need to be said. My partner and I were naive when we were planning our lives as parents, and perhaps if couples were given a more honest representation of their post-baby sex lives, that wouldn't have been the case.
I'm going to be completely honest — postpartum sex, in the beginning, was awful. Nothing about it felt natural, comfortable, or enjoyable, except for the closeness I was finally able to share with partner again. Once we got passed those initial post-baby sex hurdles, though, our sex was better than ever. I'll say it again, for the people in the back: postpartum sex was the best sex my partner and I had ever enjoyed. I don't know if it was the new mix of hormones, the confidence motherhood had blessed me with, or because I let go of my inhibitions for arguably the first time in my life. Whatever it was and regardless of the reasons, I'm cool with the results.
Aside from the weird things that happen at the most interesting times (breast milk leakage, anyone?), postpartum sex is nothing to fear or dread. Sure, I didn't love it the first few times I was able to be physically intimate with my partner, because I was still healing on all sorts of levels. on a lot of levels, but it proved to be a worthwhile, important part of our relationship and for us as new parents. With that, here's some other things no one says about sex after baby that we should all be talking about.