It takes a lot of courage to be open about mental health, especially if you're a mom struggling with a disorder like postpartum anxiety. Many folks still buy into the misperception that the brain is the only organ in the body that never gets sick. So when people talk about their struggles, instead of empathizing as they would if someone was physically sick or hurt, people respond like the individual has a character flaw rather than a legitimate illness that requires treatment. Some of the things people say to moms suffering from postpartum anxiety are shockingly callous and unhelpful, but common nevertheless.
Regardless of what anyone else may say, please know that you matter and your well-being matters. You are not obligated to be a superhero in order to be a mother, and no one benefits from your suffering. So while you don't necessarily need to, you should absolutely feel empowered to stand up to anyone who tries to belittle you or dismiss what you're going through. You are not less of a person or less of a mother for experiencing postpartum anxiety, and there is nothing wrong with seeking support and professional help. You deserve to be healthy and whole, and you need to be your best self to take the best possible care of your children.
Truly, you shouldn't feel at all obligated to share your struggles with people you don't already know will understand, nor should you feel obligated to keep talking to someone after they reveal that they're not trustworthy or understanding or supportive or anything else that you may need. In many cases, it's really not worth your time or energy, which is probably in short supply as of late. Sometimes, however, when you're talking to a family member or someone else who is really important in your life, you may feel it's important that they understand what's going on, on some level. If you do feel like responding to what they say, the following suggestions for responding to common misperceptions about postpartum anxiety might be a good place to start.