Everyone knows getting physical with another person is cheating (unless you' have an open-relationship, in which case it's all good.) But other areas can be a little confusing. There are grey areas in how you interact with other people outside of your significant other, which is why you might feel a pang of guilt when your ex Facebook messages you. Is that OK? Should you tell your partner? Well there are things that are definitely not cheating. So you can relax about your tendency to blush and daydream after you see the sexy delivery guy in your office supply room.
Communication is essential in any good relationship, and if you and your significant other are talking about what boundaries matter to you, then you'll know if you are moving to a dangerous grey area. I want my husband to tell me if an ex contacts him in any way – I don't mind if she does, I just want to know about it. It makes me feel secure. And my husband respects that, and follows suit. Feeling secure in a relationship allows you to trust, and trust allows you to not freak out about small stuff that really doesn't matter, like light flirting, or things that have no reflection on the strength of your relationship, like masturbating. So if you feel safe with your partner and the communication is good, enjoy your office husband without guilt. Check out the things that aren't considered cheating so you can pay attention to things that are a no-no.