It's not the easiest thing to make time for yourself when you have children. If anything, it gets bumped down to the very bottom of your priority list (if it's on the list at all). But there came a point in my life when my inability to prioritize self-care became detrimental to my emotional health and overall wellbeing as a wife, mother, and woman. I'm sure a lot of moms can relate and feel guilty about taking time for themselves. That's why I think it's important to know the things your kid learns from you when you make time for yourself. Should you care about your needs only because they benefit your child, too? No. You matter all on your own. But if you need some additional incentive to bump yourself up on your priority list, so be it.
After a long battle with postpartum depression (PPD), I realized there was no better time to put myself first than right then and there. I had a second chance at life (literally) and refused to let it escape me. That meant a lot of things needed to change if I was going to be the mother my kids needed, the wife my husband deserved, and the person I wanted to be. It took some time to accept that putting myself first isn't a selfish thing to do, though. In fact, it's a necessary component in creating a happier, healthier version of me.
I took up running and I go whenever I need to and regardless of what's happening around me, because it makes for a clearer, more patient me. I write as often as necessary because I've learned that without writing my thoughts jumble up and I lean towards a depressive disorder phase. I take a nightly bath to find some peace. In other words, whatever I can do to make myself happy, I do it. I know I'm better for it, and I know that if we, as women, fought against the notion that we're only valuable to those we love if we give up every single part of ourselves, more mothers would be happier and healthier, too.
If you're struggling with putting yourself first and feeling guilty for valuing your own needs, I urge you to think about the following things you're teaching you kid(s) when you make the time; lessons they might not learn if you don't take care of yourself before you start caring for everyone else: