If you ever need more unsolicited opinions in your life, just start raising a child. Suddenly everyone and their dog has a negative opinion about the way you feed, dress, or simply breathe around your kid. It can be maddening. But talking about this issue with your partner is crucial, even if they don't quite experience it to the same degree. Learning healthy ways to discuss mom-shaming with your spouse (according to relationship experts), will help you cope with those comments from the peanut gallery.
Basically, mom-shaming occurs when others negatively judge a mother's parenting decisions in some way. From major topics such as whether you breastfeed to minor ones like your go-to brand of applesauce, your choices as a parent are up for debate. And for whatever reason, having a kid means every busybody in your vicinity is compelled to comment on your every move.
That said, such mom-shaming is nothing new, and encountering it doesn't mean you're actually a terrible parent, or anywhere close to being "bad" at all. "Honestly, I suppose mom-shaming has been going on since the first mother became the first grandmother," Dena Kouremetis tells Romper. She's the author of Psychology Today's blog, The Unedited Offspring, as well as the mom of #Girlboss author Sophia Amoruso. She cautions that many people who engage in mom-shaming may have good intentions at heart, and it's important to maintain a healthy perspective about the whole thing. Certainly, rising above the whole situation is one solution.
But if you're struggling to deal with these comments and explain the whole culture of mom-shaming to your spouse, that's OK, too. Here is some advice from relationship experts about discussing mom-shaming with your partner.