7 Ways To Teach Your Kids To Be LGBT Allies


This past weekend's tragedy in Orlando has left the nation in mourning. People across the country are coping with the loss of innocent lives, and trying to make sense of an unthinkable act of terror targeted at the LGBT community. If you have children, it may be impossible to shield them from the news, and you may find yourself searching for answers to their questions about the shooter's motive and their own safety. One of the best things you can do is to promote acceptance of differences in your family. There are ways to teach your kids to be LGBT allies, and as a result, more tolerant human beings.

You may be unsure of your own feelings on LGBT issues, and you have a right to your beliefs. But as a parent, you owe it to your children to provide them with an unbiased view of the world, and allow them to make their own decisions.

According to Planned Parenthood, one out of four families has someone in it who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, or trans, which means the subject will come up with your children whether you like it or not. A conversation with your children about whether someone is gay or straight should be less about sex and more about promoting kindness and love for their fellow human beings. Use this list to help guide your conversations, and you may even learn a little something yourself.

1. Turn To A Book

There are a number of LGBT books available, including options for children. Worm Loves Worm, for example, is a children's book about two worms reiterate the idea that it doesn't matter who you love, but how you love your partner.

2. Talk About It

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A person holds a placard reading 'Equality for all children ....' as a boy waves a rainbow flag during a demonstration to support gay marriage and adoption on January 26, 2013 in Lyon, central France. French government plans to put the proposed legislation to parliament on January 29. AFP PHOTO / JEFF PACHOUD (Photo credit should read JEFF PACHOUD/AFP/Getty Images)

The Gay-Straight Alliance encourages parents to engage in a dialogue with their children about how homophobia affects both the victim and the person with the prejudice. If you are looking for guidance, there are plenty of outlets available.

3. Stand Up For Others

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A woman carrying a child on her shoulder waves a rainbow flag during the opening event of the annual Gay Pride parade in the Israeli city of Tel Aviv, on June 3, 2016. A carefree and cosmopolitan crowd of tens of thousands of homosexuals, transsexuals and supporters took part it the Gay Pride in Tel Aviv, deemed one of the largest in the world where amid the crowd, tourists waved large flags of their country of origin to signify their presence in a city known as a rare oasis for LGBT (lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender) in the Middle East. / AFP / JACK GUEZ (Photo credit should read JACK GUEZ/AFP/Getty Images)

Let your kids know that it is never ok to use anti-LGBT slurs, and encourage them to stand up for their friends and classmates who may be the victim of a bully.

4. Point Out Similarities

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A Romanian mother and her child together with members and supporters of 'Noua Dreapta' (The New Right) nationalist organization march holding a Romanian national flag during a protest against gays and lesbians in Bucharest on June 4, 2011 ahead of today's Gay Parade . Around two hundred people gathered in central Bucharest for a protest called 'The Normality March' scheduled every year ahead of Gay Parade. AFP PHOTO/DANIEL MIHAILESCU (Photo credit should read DANIEL MIHAILESCU/AFP/Getty Images)

Scary Mommy suggested pointing out what makes a homosexual relationship like any other. Doing so normalizes LGBT relationships and helps your children realize that love is love.

5. Say The Word

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In article for XO Jane, gay dad Jerry Mahoney encourages parents to keep the word "gay" in their vocabulary. Instead of making it a negative word that shouldn't be used, promote the positive. But more than anything, don't be afraid to say it.

6. Celebrate With Pride


Many cities have pride celebrations during the month of June that are geared toward families. Check out the events in your town and make it a family affair.

7. Connect With People You Know

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NEW YORK - JUNE 24: A girl hi-fives reveler as she marches in the New York City Gay Pride March on June 24, 2012 in New York City. The annual civil rights demonstration commemorates the Stonewall riots of 1969, which erupted after a police raid on a gay bar, the Stonewall Inn on Christopher Street. (Photo by Michael Nagle/Getty Images)

Olivia Higgins, founder of Queerly Elementary, an organization that teaches the best way to encourage kids to embrace diversity, told The Washington Post, that it's important for parents to have a close friend or relative who is LGBT talk to your children about their life.