My amazing partner and I have a pretty solid relationship. We have two gorgeous children together and have endured some insanely tough times (like right now, when we currently live in separate states). Together nearly 13 years, there's little we can't say to one another because, you know, communication is key to a long-lasting romantic relationship. However, no matter how "open" we are, I have a confession to make: there are some things I really meant to tell my partner when I said "I'm too tired," that he absolutely deserves to hear.
As I said above, my partner and I are temporarily apart due to a job offer he accepted out-of-state. At the moment, my kids and I are "stuck" here until school is out. He's been gone a full week now and, needless to say, I'm missing him more than I thought I could. All this time without him has made me reflect on our lives together. I honestly can't help but think back on all the dumb squabbles that meant nothing, the troubling times where communication was non-existent and I didn't think we'd make it through, and all those times sex was put on the back burner in the name of parenthood and because of our careers. Now I'm sitting on 13 years of regret, wishing he could just be here with me now so I could right some of the wrongs.
I used the "I'm too tired" excuse too often when my husband was here and asked something of me. It was the easy way out of talking things through and that's not how I want this relationship thing to go. So, with that in mind, here's what I really meant when I used those three little words that I'll try not to say so much when we're reunited (I'm counting down the days).