When I became a mom, I instantly lost sight of nearly everything other than my daughter. My husband will attest, I basically forgot he existed for the first six months of my daughter's life. It wasn't intentional, it's just when my daughter was born my focus narrowed and thinking about keeping her alive and thriving was enough to take up my whole brain. But take it from someone who's done it the wrong way: there are things you absolutely shouldn't lose sight of now that you're a mom.
I had waited years to become a mom, so once we adopted our baby girl it was the realization of a long-time dream. When that dream was realized, everything else fell away. I instantly forgot about family and friends, who I was pre-baby, and that I had responsibilities to my partner as his wife. After about six months (and a few kind reminders from my husband), I came out of the baby fog and remembered who I used to be. I used to be a writer, a wife, a friend, a sister, and a daughter.
Of course, who I used to be was only a part of who I was as a mother. But it was so important to not lose sight of certain things in order to hold onto some of my identity as a person, and not let being a mom supersede everything else. Being a mom can give you tunnel vision to taking care of your kids, especially if you have the opportunity to stay home with them for a little while. Keeping sight of certain things allows you to hold onto some slices of your non-mom identity.