After kids, when you refer to "peanut butter jelly time," you are is more likely the act of making an actual sandwich than the act of getting it on with your partner. (What, I'm the only one who routinely used that euphemism is my relationship? Whatever, prudes.) It can be — in case you haven't already been told this by every single person with a baby you've ever met — sometimes a little tricky to schedule sex after having a baby. It's inevitable absence from time to time can put a serious damper on even the most solid of relationships. What's the word for when you're cranky because you haven't been getting laid enough? Is there one? Can we make it horngry? It is decided! Anyway...
After a baby enters the equation, getting and staying in the ~sexy zone~ of your relationship (which possibly resulted in said baby in the first place) might be difficult — but it's also essential. That's not to say that there's something wrong with you, your partner, or your relationship if you aren't getting in on like mad right after you pop out a new babyfriend. How and when sex exists in a relationship is different for literally every couple. As long as everyone's needs are getting met via however much or little sex you're having, then there's nothing "wrong" with whatever you're doing. That said, "getting everyone's sexy needs met" can prove to be a hell of a battle after you've got a tiny human living in your house.
So what if you're so exhausted that you've developed the ability to sleep with your eyes open? So what if the t-shirt you've been wearing for the last five days smells like sour milk and baby powder? So what if you've got an alarm set on your phone reminding you to brush your teeth daily? It's easy to get swept away by the nuances of newborns during that adjustment period, but you're still you, and you are very likely someone who would like to get off from time to time (to which I say, "Preach.")
The good news is that your sex life doesn't have to be DOA after a baby enters the picture. With a little bit of creativity and improvisation it might just make its comeback with a vengeance. Here's how that went down (heh) for some women: