9 Couple's Arguments That Aren't As Bad As They Seem
No matter how perfect your relationship is, there's always room for a couple to get into a fight. It doesn't have to mean you're yelling at each other and packing your bags, but even passive aggressive sighs and normal disagreements can be considered fights. Personally, the worst part of fighting is the aftermath. It's when the two of you are sitting on opposite corners of the couch, when one of you storms off, or when you're both staring at each other, trying to figure out what the hell just happened. Luckily, there are a few couple arguments that aren't as bad as they seem that shouldn't lead to this kind of blow out. And, not so shockingly, they seem to be the most common.
No matter how perfect your relationship is, there's always room for a couple to get into a fight. It doesn't have to mean you're yelling at each other, but even passive aggressive sighs and normal disagreements can be considered fights. Personally, the worst part of fighting is the aftermath; when the two of you are sitting on opposite corners of the couch, storming off, or staring at each other, trying to figure out what the hell just happened. Luckily, there are a few couple arguments that aren't as bad as they seem that shouldn't lead to this kind of blow out. And, not so shockingly, they seem to be the most common.
I feel pretty lucky that both my boyfriend and I are laid back and not the confrontational type, but I'm also not naive enough to think there won't be a time where we disagree on something and voice our opinions about it. Some fights? Those should be taken seriously. Fights about communication, finances, or work-life balances can be big, huge deals. But if you're b*tching at your partner because they told you to turn left when you should've turned right, I think you'll be OK. These nine arguments between couples aren't as bad as they seem, despite how serious they feel when you're having them.
1. The One About Irritating Habits
You can hear your partner sucking their teeth from three rooms away, and lash out at them to stop. Don't worry. If you haven't fought with your partner over some quirk of theirs that is not charming in the least, then you might be dating a robot.
2. The One About Navigation Mistakes
I never offer to read out directions anymore because one, that's what Siri is for, and two, I'm terrible at it. This can cause some tremendous fights because it's frustrating to be the driver who's constantly being told to make a U-turn and it puts the navigator in a hot spot of feeling humiliated and slightly idiotic. Not a good combination. But it's nothing something you can't get pass.
3. The One About The Temperature
I swear, my boyfriend's body temperature is always in the extremes. He's either going to melt the furniture with his skin hot or he's begging me to put an extra blanket on the bed. Because I love him, I don't whack him over the head when he starts in on his temperature rants, but not everyone is a saint like me. When your patience is wearing thin (and if you're the one hot while they're turning up the heat), it's easy to turn this into a full blown argument. And if it does, then you'll get over it.
4. The One About What To Watch
"I can not sit through another episode of NCIS."
"Well I'm not watching Love Actually."
"We always watch what you want!"
Sound familiar? Thought so. If you haven't had the Netflix fight yet, it's coming. Don't worry.
5. The One About What To Do At Night
This one always feels bad because, usually, the person who wants to go out storms off in a huff to do just that. And the other person is left sitting at home, crying, and wondering where it all went wrong. Chin up, partner. Your SO simply wanted you to join them out, you didn't want to, and they were upset about it. End of story. But once they come home, everything will be good to go.
6. The One When You Were Drunk
Physical altercations aside, those arguments you have when you're drunk and your partner is sober? They're usually harmless. Most of them stem from the fact that you aren't ready to go home, and your partner is sober, exhausted, and probably tired of dealing with your drunk *ss. We've all been that sober person. So when you wake up in the morning, pop a few Advil and apologize for getting cantankerous.
7. The One About Spoiling The Kids
Your partner says that you give in to the kids too much and you think you're just having fun. This fight can make you feel super defensive and on edge, but don't let it. Parenting is all about balance. If one of you is actually concerned with how the other is handling things, it's time for a talk. But fighting over the kids having ice cream without finishing their dinner? Not a biggie.
8. The One About The House's Cleanliness
They left the toilet seat lid up. You didn't put the peanut butter back in the pantry. No one has swept up the dog hair in two days. All of these fights qualify and all of them are ridiculous. It doesn't mean your partner is going to move out in the morning. It means you two need to sit down and talk about how you want the house to look and what it means to get it to that point. (And it also means you want them to put the d*mn toilet seat down already. That water is cold when you fall in at 3 a.m.)
9. The One When You Were In A Bad Mood
You're tense, you've had a sh*tty day at work, and you just spilled coffee all over your clothes. Your partner is exhausted, has been wrangling the kid all day, and just asked you if you could please give them ten minutes to take a shower. And now you've lost it. Those fights are the absolute worse, but we all feel guilty for them afterward and are eager to apologize for our bad attitudes and the things we said. We're also eager for make-up sex, so you know, this fight may be worth it.