Being home with the kids all day is great but, because I also work from home, it's mentally exhausting. When my partner is home from long hours at his job, I don't want to squabble over chores or dinner. So, when I hear he's taking care of laundry and picking up the groceries, those are some of the most erotic things you could do for a stay-at-home mom. No joke.
Before we were parents, we lived by the seats of our pants. We did whatever the hell we wanted, whenever the hell we wanted, and it was fantastic and exciting. After kids, while fantastic in its own way, we're not just lovers anymore — we're parents now, too. That means my personal tastes have gone from steamy date nights to a quiet room so I can finish my damn show in peace. It's nothing personal. After 13 glorious years together, my husband and I have both changed. For example, I'm sure his idea of a good time involves a Playstation. It's already hard enough to keep the romance alive when you've been together as long as we have, but throw in kids and it's (almost) impossible sometimes. Did I mention how tired I am?
I love my partner, but if there's any kind of romance happening these days, it's because he did any of the following. The bar is low, my friends. Very, very low. I'm tired, mentally drained, and honestly, not in any kind of mood but the sleepy kind.