Intimacy is a loaded word that has three different definitions — close familiarity or friendship, a private cozy atmosphere, and an intimate act. All three are pretty important for a relationship, right? Unfortunately, intimacy is not always so easy to come by, no matter how in love you are with your partner. But creating intimacy doesn't have to be full of exercises and a lot of work. Instead, there are questions you can ask your partner to make your love life better. (And they aren't scary either.)
Intimacy is the foundation of any relationship, as it includes both physical and emotional connections. Think about all of the necessary qualities you need to make it work with your partner. Trust, communication, physical desire — all of these traits fall under intimacy. And when your relationship is suffering, for whatever reason, that emotional and physical connection is affected. To make sex better, communication better, and your love life in general as good as it can possibly be, you have to start asking questions. A 1997 study conducted by Arthur Aron actually compiled 36 questions that could create intimacy between two complete strangers when asked. But because nobody's got time for 36 questions and because your partner isn't a stranger, I've got nine different questions you should ask your SO. They will start an intimate conversation about fears, satisfactions, desires, and love to bring the two of you closer together. (And not require a notepad to write down all of the answers.)