Emotionally, the fall and winter months are difficult, and sometimes being around family members can make things even worse. Whether secretly intentional or the result of innocent cluelessness, there are questions your own parents will ask that'll make you feel all the mom guilt. You know, the guilt you feel all the damn time anyway and without your parents' help. I guess that's just part of their job, though. They question the choices you make, even if it's obvious they're the right ones, because they're probably not the same choices they've made for themselves. Parents, right?!
Before I moved my family to a different state, it was relatively easy to shake off any questions or concerns my parents posed in regards to my parenting. Maybe it's because I felt more confident, less vulnerable, and knew that whatever I was doing was working. My kids are pretty great, and because I'm with them all the time I consider their greatness to be a reflection of my hard work. But then we moved, and every little decision seemed more important than ever before. It was no longer just about keeping our normal routines so everyone's comfortable. Instead, it was about keeping my family afloat during a time of significant change. And now, well, I feel defective in some way. Like no matter what I do or how hard I try, I'll inevitably mess up. And while I know making mistakes is part of parenting, the guilt that accompanies even my perceived failures is something I constantly struggle with.
So now, when my parents asks certain questions about my kids and our new lives in this new home in this new state, I feel all the mom guilt imaginable. I'm in such a raw space emotionally (because hey, it's also the end of the year) that I can't handle even constructive criticism right now. So with that in mind, and because knowing what's coming your way is a great way to protect yourself and your mental health, here are the questions parents ask that make us less-seasoned mothers feel guilty as hell: