9 Reasons Not Having Shaved Shouldn't Stop You From Having Sex

In the United States, even at this point in history where we're starting to enjoy broader body acceptance than ever, body hair on women is rarely celebrated. In fact, women are conventionally encouraged in American culture — if not downright shamed — to shave every hair on their body that doesn't sit on top of their head. Armpit hair, leg hair, public hair, facial hair... Those all belong to men, and are allowed to be displayed by men, but never women.

But why is this the case? Why do women feel like they need to rid themselves of a very natural part of their body, all so they can fit into a socially constructed and widely accepted standard of beauty? Why are women made to feel like they need to stifle their bodies' natural state in order to appear "sexy" or "attractive"?

One word: control.

Our society has attempted to control women and their bodies since...always. What a woman should wear and how a woman should style her hair; how often, how, when, or with whom a woman should have sex — have all been implicitly (or directly, quite often) dictated to women through the Male Gaze-driven messages they've been receiving about what's sexy and acceptable since, well, birth. Sadly, these messages — from Hollywood, advertisements, even art — have been so successful that an entire culture of hair-less women have been made to feel "gross" or "disgusting" if they do not shave, wax, and/or pluck on a regular basis.

But let me be the first (and hopefully never the last) to tell you that you're not gross or disgusting if you don't shave. You're not gross or disgusting at all. And skipping a few shaving sessions, should never stop you from expressing yourself, sexually or otherwise. If you want to shave any part of your body, I'm certainly not here to tell you that you shouldn't, or that you're a bad feminist if you shave, or...anything. I'm not here to tell you how to live any part of your life nor how to groom any part of your body. I am here to say that if you let the presence of a little body hair stop you in a situation where you might otherwise engage in a little sexual throwdown, then I don't really understand your life.

So, with that in mind, here are 9 reasons why not shaving, shouldn't keep you from having sex. After all, you're grown, and so is your body hair.

Body Hair Is Natural, Just Like Sex

There's no reason to be embarrassed about a very natural part of your body. Body hair serves a purpose, and exists because your body needs hair. Don't let a natural part of your body stop you from doing a natural act with your body, like sex. In fact, shaving and waxing and plucking are all unnatural, and are all social constructs of a particular, marketable brand of beauty, not natural reactions to something absolutely normal.

Your Partner Doesn't Care (Or At Least, They Shouldn't)

Trust me, your partner doesn't care. At least, they shouldn't. And if your partner does care, and thinks you're "gross" because you have body hair, I highly suggest you re-evaluate your relationship and the person you're sharing it with.

You Don't Need To Shave To Be Sexy

The words "shaving" and "sexy" are not synonymous. Sure, many women prefer to be shaved and there is obviously nothing wrong with that, but shaving their body hair doesn't make them sexy. They're already sexy, so skipping out on a shaving session or two won't make you (or your body) ugly. I promise.

Body Hair Won't Stop You From Having An Orgasm

Body hair isn't going to get in the way of your ride to pleasure town, I promise. It won't restrict you or your partner from experiencing any tingling feelings, and it definitely won't keep you or your partner from hitting that one spot and finishing that one way you really like. Body hair isn't an iron clad chastity belt, people.

Body Hair Won't Make Your Favorite Position Impossible

Body hair won't keep you from safely and sufficiently trying your favorite sex positions either. It's not like you can say, "Well, we can't have sex that one way, because I forgot to shave my legs, so really, what's the point?" No. Body hair won't inhibit you and your consensual partner from having sex in whatever way you both would like.

Body Hair Is Attractive

Of course, everyone has their own personal preferences and there's nothing wrong with that. But honestly, body hair isn't unattractive. Body hair doesn't drastically change your body type, size, shape, or anything else for that matter. It's just there, along for the ride.

Social Norms Shouldn't Dictate Your Sex Life

You shouldn't let social constructs or long-standing societal norms dictate how or when or why you have sex. There's no room for that in the bedroom, ladies. You shouldn't be stifled or held back, just because a group of people randomly decided and dictated what was "attractive" and what wasn't.

The Only Thing That Should Dictate Whether Or Not You Have Sex, Is Consent

Do you want to have sex? Does your partner want to have sex? If the answer to both of those questions is "yes," then nothing else should matter. Go on with your bad selves.

Because You're An Adult

You're an adult, not a child. When you're an adult, you have body hair and that body hair grows and that's just the way the human body works.