In the United States, even at this point in history where we're starting to enjoy broader body acceptance than ever, body hair on women is rarely celebrated. In fact, women are conventionally encouraged in American culture — if not downright shamed — to shave every hair on their body that doesn't sit on top of their head. Armpit hair, leg hair, public hair, facial hair... Those all belong to men, and are allowed to be displayed by men, but never women.
But why is this the case? Why do women feel like they need to rid themselves of a very natural part of their body, all so they can fit into a socially constructed and widely accepted standard of beauty? Why are women made to feel like they need to stifle their bodies' natural state in order to appear "sexy" or "attractive"?
One word: control.
Our society has attempted to control women and their bodies since...always. What a woman should wear and how a woman should style her hair; how often, how, when, or with whom a woman should have sex — have all been implicitly (or directly, quite often) dictated to women through the Male Gaze-driven messages they've been receiving about what's sexy and acceptable since, well, birth. Sadly, these messages — from Hollywood, advertisements, even art — have been so successful that an entire culture of hair-less women have been made to feel "gross" or "disgusting" if they do not shave, wax, and/or pluck on a regular basis.
But let me be the first (and hopefully never the last) to tell you that you're not gross or disgusting if you don't shave. You're not gross or disgusting at all. And skipping a few shaving sessions, should never stop you from expressing yourself, sexually or otherwise. If you want to shave any part of your body, I'm certainly not here to tell you that you shouldn't, or that you're a bad feminist if you shave, or...anything. I'm not here to tell you how to live any part of your life nor how to groom any part of your body. I am here to say that if you let the presence of a little body hair stop you in a situation where you might otherwise engage in a little sexual throwdown, then I don't really understand your life.
So, with that in mind, here are 9 reasons why not shaving, shouldn't keep you from having sex. After all, you're grown, and so is your body hair.