9 Reasons Not To Be Embarrassed If You Only Like Missionary

by Jill Di Donato

You don't mess with the classics, and that rule applies to sex positions. Maybe you're in nesting mode, or maybe you just like what you like. Regardless, reasons not to be embarrassed if you only like missionary are sexy as hell. But, there's this idea that missionary requires a defense because it's got a reputation (false, as you'll see) for being classified as a vanilla sex position (not that there's anything un-sexy about vanilla sex either). But before I go any further, can you toss the idea that any type of sex is worthy or unworthy of embarrassment? Awesome. I mean, you're getting laid, people and what feels good, feels good.

I get that "variety is the spice of life," but being monogamous to one sex position is totally intense. Why? Since so much of what makes sex pleasurable starts in the brain, if you only do it in one position, it's easier to remember all those hot times, and let the sexy memories wash over you as you're getting it on in that same position. Is it just me, or is that kind of dedication and discipline the definition of a hot sex life? Of course, there's also this notion that you should try out every position in the Kama Sutra, any by all means, do you. But personally, missionary is my position of choice (yup, I'm going on record) and I'm not blushing about it. You shouldn't either. Why? You ask, and I answer with these reasons not be embarrassed about only liking missionary.


It Makes The Most Amazing Orgasms

If you're not orgasming in missionary, let me hook you up with a couple of pointers. Just like taking a good selfie, missionary is all about angles. Psychology Today noted that there's actually a method called "coital alignment technique" or CAT developed by sex researcher Edward Eichel, which helps woman climax in missionary. "The CAT is deceptively simple," explained the Psychology Today article. "Instead of the man lying on top of the woman chest-to-chest with his penis moving more or less horizontally, the man shifts himself forward so that his chest is closer to one of her shoulders." In other words, make sure you give the clit some love by positioning your body in special alignment with your partner. Ah, science.


It Allows For Eye Gazing

#SorryNotSorry I like to look into the eyes of my lover as we do it. It helps me connect, and reach emotional intimacy. And for me, that's what sex is about.


It Leads To Deep Penetration

OK, sex isn't always about a deep connection for me. Sometimes I just need some deep penetration, which missionary delivers.


It Can Make You Feel Vulnerable As Hell

There are times in bed when I want to be totally dominated. Missionary allows for this sensation. Cosmopolitan noted that if you lift a leg or two up during missionary, you'll be particularly "open," literally and figuratively.


It Can Also Let You Take Control

Missionary is an equal opportunity position. While lying on you back, you can grab the ass of your lover and push him (or her, if she's pegging you) in and out of you at your desired tempo.


It Allows For Deep Kissing During Sex

Connection with your mouths, and other parts, during sex is a total turn on. So many sensations.


It Doesn't Require Too Much Physical Exertion

For those days, nights, or afternoons when you just want to lie back and feel good, this position will do it for you.


It Can Get Acrobatic

Lifting your legs requires flexibility. Additionally, you may want to try a sex wedge and prop it beneath your butt. Stacking pillows works just as well and gives awesome tilt and allows you to flex your body in unique positions while still remaining in missionary.


It Lets You Feel The Weight Of Another

This is such a turn on for me! I get off on feeling the chest of my lover on top of me. The pressure is incredibly intense and helps me climax like nothing else.


It Allows G-Spot Stimulation

Guess what position is ideal for feeling your G-spot? Lie on your back, spread your legs, and, seeking a spongy, puckered, or slightly ridged area, as assistant professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality Celeste Hirschman explained to Cosmopolitan. When you're turned on, your G-spot fills with fluid, swelling in size. To hit the G-spot, you should lie on your back in missionary, keeping your "knees bent and feet resting flat on the bed," noted the same Cosmopolitan article. Your partner should aim for the vaginal wall with upper thrusts to reach your G-spot. Voila! Missionary can help you achieve a G-spot orgasm.

So, rethink your notions on missionary, and if you're like me, you know why I'm so loyal to this sex position.