Graduating to spoon-fed is an important milestone in a baby's young life, but it's important to remember that it's a stepping stone, not an endpoint. If you play the "here comes the airplane" game for too long, you could be in for a world of hurt. As parents, it's a mistake that a lot of us make, and to the detriment of our children and their development. Self-feeding is an essential life skill, and it's one of the many reasons I don't spoon-feed my kid.
I combo-fed (breast milk and formula) my child and waited until the American Association of Pediatrics' recommended 6 months of age to start supplementing with solid foods. My daughter's first foods were purees I made myself, and with organic fruits and vegetables. She did great being spoon-fed. I added puffs and crackers when I saw she had her pincer grasp down at around 9 months, but damned if that kid didn't refuse to feed herself. With the help of a friend (who, conveniently for me, is also an occupational therapist), she started self-feeding around the time she turned 1. She's 2.5 now, and although she doesn't always opt for a fork or spoon, she manages to get most of the food in her mouth.
I think it's important that, once your child starts self-feeding, you don't look back. I do have a few exceptions, of course. If my little girl is revisiting the dinner she didn't eat or I'm sharing a bowl of ice cream with her in the living room, I'll put the spoon in her mouth because, you know, I still care about my furniture. Other than that, though, she's on her own. Here's why: