For many mamas-to-be, the baby shower is one of the highlights and rewards of pregnancy. You get a party in your honor, there's usually some kind of awesome cupcake situation, you play some fun games, and you get a ton of presents. What's not to like? Well, for me, the only appealing thing on that list is the cupcake part. I had more than a few reasons why I refused to have a baby shower for both of my children. Some reasons had to do with my family, while others were more superficial. However, all in all, a baby shower was just not something that appealed to me.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy other people's baby showers. I thoroughly enjoy watching other people awkwardly open their gifts or navigate uncomfortable social situations in which different "friend worlds" collide or where their aunt with no filter says something off-putting to their conservative in-laws. Those things can be super fun. I just don't find it all that fun when I am the person at the center of it.
Luckily, I don't plan on having any more kids so the pressure of will-I-or-won't-I is off. Still, during both of my pregnancies, I had to field a ton of questions as to why I wasn't planning on having baby showers. Here are the types of answers I would have given people at the time: