I don’t regret being a working parent, but I definitely wish we had a more evolved work culture that embraced the fluidity of work and life. I love what I do, and I’ve worked hard to cultivate my professional life, but I hate feeling like I’m missing my kids’ lives and I really hate when people remind me of that. Because that whole "fluidity of work and life" thing has yet to engrain itself in our culture, there are things people say to working moms that they don't say to SAH moms, and it's just the worst to be on the receiving end of endless judgement and shame and those pesky raised eyebrows.
Granted, it is (thankfully) more common now, than, say, in my mom’s generation, for a woman to be asked, “What do you do for work?” I’m guilty of using that default conversation setting when getting to know someone, as I just kind of assume that everyone works. That might not be the best assumption to make but, then again, it's kind of awesome that the collective "we" isn't excluding women from that assumption just because their women and especially just because they are (or happen to be) mothers. Add the fact that there are more stay-at-home dads than ever before and, well, you can't help but optimistically assume society is creeping towards a place that will finally match working moms’ career ambitions with the domestic support we need to find the same success as our working dad counterparts.
Then again, if you're a working mom, you're bound to here these 9 frustrating and ridiculous things a time or two, so don't be surprised if that short-lived optimism goes out the proverbial window in a matter of seconds.