You did it. You gave birth to your beautiful baby (because you're a total badass), you've sailed through your postpartum check-ups, and you're ready to jump right back into those favorites of yours that you've been missing. Beer, sushi, sex — all three are back on the menu, right? But sex after baby is a huge concern for a lot of moms, especially those who had a vaginal delivery. I mean, that has to affect sex in some way, right? Can you have a vaginal orgasm after giving birth?
The short answer — yes. But it could be different than before and it could require a little extra work. It's also important to remember that vaginal orgasms, without any type of clitoral stimulation, are rare, noted Cosmopolitan. Getting off on penetration alone, happens, but not as often as porn leads you to believe, whether or not you've had a baby.
But giving birth doesn't make a vaginal orgasm any more rare. According to Parenting, one hold-up could be from the lack of lubrication in your vagina after giving birth. Less estrogen in your body (thanks to breastfeeding) can make your vaginal tissues less moist and supple, which can affect orgasms and the enjoyment of sex. A little lubrication goes a long way, but does that mean your vaginal orgasms are back to normal? Women's Health suggested yes. Apparently the trauma of birth can potentially make your orgasms feel more sensitive and more intense, improving your sex life after baby.
Like with anything concerning sex, things differ from person to person. You may find that you have a harder time having a vaginal orgasm after giving birth than you did before. Loss of libido, postpartum recovery (including stitches or vaginal trauma), and focus on the new baby can make it really difficult to achieve the big O. But it's not impossible. Fit Pregnancy suggested Kegel exercises to help strengthen your pelvic floor, which could be blocking your chance at a vaginal orgasm, as well as trying new things in the bedroom, like more quickies and afternoon sex rather than waiting until bedtime when you're exhausted and ready to pass out.
Whether you find it difficult to have a vaginal orgasm or find it super easy, the important thing to remember is that pregnancy and childbirth can change your body. Your genitals may be more sensitive, causing super intense orgasms, or they may need some extra help to achieve the big O. But there's nothing to worry about, unless you feel like your libido is completely dead, and it's just a new adjustment in becoming a parent. (You'll also find that sometimes sleep wins over orgasms and that's OK, too.)