Some days I wonder what my life would be like if I had my babies when I was in my 20s, like the majority of my friends. Would I have had more energy? Or fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans sooner? Would I have been able to go on as many adventures as I did when I was in my 20s, get a Master's Degree, or establish my career?
And what about if I waited to have a baby in my 40s? Would I be even more tired than I am now —having had my last child at 38 — or have the wisdom to view even the biggest parenting hurdles as no big deal? It's clear that there are pros and cons to having a baby at any age, but as more and more parents decide to wait until their 40s to start their families I have to wonder what that particular experience is like. In my many conversations with the older mom crowd (of which I consider myself to be part of), I've learned that having a baby in your 40s is pretty much like any having a baby anytime... you're just equipped with a little more life experience.
As an "older" mom you have the added benefit of knowing more about yourself and being able to have a couple of decades of adulthood under your proverbial belt before being responsible for raising other humans. Sure, sometimes it feels odd to be the oldest mom in the pick-up line at school and, yes, your energy reserve is lacking the older you get. I don't appreciate being told how old I'll be when my kids eventually graduate high school, either. But when to have a child is a pretty monumental decision (if you decide to have one at all), and what works for one family won't always work for another.
So with that in mind, here's what having a baby in your 40s was like for seven moms who've been there and done that: