The moments before you fall asleep can often be a time of stress. As you're brushing your teeth or lying in the dark, you finally have time to think about everything you're juggling in your busy schedule, and your brain starts going a million miles an hour trying solve all of your problems. If you're in a toxic relationship, you might have even more reason to be anxious before bed. People often have trouble falling asleep because of things they're doing right before bed, Michael Grandner, PhD, a psychiatry instructor and member of the Behavioral Sleep Medicine Program at the University of Pennsylvania explained to Health, and you and your partner's evening routine could reveal a few things about your relationship.
By nature, healthy relationships make you feel good: supported, happy, loved, etc. A toxic relationship, on the other hand, is “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness," Dr. Lillian Glass explained in her book Toxic People, Time magazine reported. People in unhealthy relationships are likely to feel depressed, unwanted, or consistently unhappy, psychologist Asa Don Brown Ph.D, wrote in Psychology Today.
Being in a negative relationship can especially affect bedtime because people in toxic relationships are usually stressed out, which makes falling asleep quite a challenge, according to Bustle. The amorphous nature of toxic relationships makes it hard to spot the signs, but there are a few common sleepy-time indicators that could mean your partner isn't right for you.