Even when you're well into adulthood, your mother's opinion probably still matters quite a bit. On some level, you just want to make her proud. However, that kind of validation isn't always available. For instance, if your mom criticizes these aspects of your life, then you may have a toxic relationship with her. Sometimes the best and healthiest option is to stop relying on her judgement about your life totally.
Again, your desire to be a dutiful child at any age probably comes from a good place. But some parents are legitimately impossible to please. "Toxic relationships include relationships with toxic parents," wrote Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, in Psychology Today. "Typically, they do not treat their children with respect as individuals. They won’t compromise, take responsibility for their behavior, or apologize." You may feel powerless around this toxic parent, even when you're a full adult (and maybe even a parent) in your own right. Thankfully, there are plenty of strategies for dealing with a toxic mom, according to Bustle. Setting healthy boundaries, and limiting the time you spend together, are just two of the ways some people manage these tricky relationships. Read on to see whether your mom might show these potentially toxic traits, and consider getting some backup from a therapist if anything hits too close to home.