When you're pregnant you're bound to face a seemingly never-ending onslaught of advice, most of which is usually unsolicited. As a first-time mom this can be helpful, but it can also be overwhelming, exhausting, and taxing. When I was pregnant in my 20s I had more than a few people throw pieces of advice my way, and while it was sometimes daunting I later realized that a lot of that advice was relevant and helpful.
I have to admit that I was absolutely clueless about about pregnancy and motherhood — not to mention life in general — when I was in my 20s. My partner and I had been together for over a year when I found out I was expecting our daughter, so our relationship was relatively new, too. So you can imagine that while I was excited to be a mom, I was also scared out of my damn mind. I had so many questions running through my head, and to be honest I was scared to ask a lot of those questions and run the risk of people thinking I was going to be some kind of terrible mother. What happens during pregnancy? How do you even hold a newborn? Do I have to buy maternity clothes? I needed, and wanted, to know it all.
Yes, some of the advice I obtained as a pregnant woman was absolute garbage, but other people definitely knew what they were talking about and, perhaps more importantly, knew my situation well enough to know what I needed to know and what pieces of information were going to be useless. And while it's important for us all to listen to and trust ourselves at the end of the day, and especially when we're pregnant, taking a few helpful hints from people who've been there can be extremely beneficial, too. So with that in mind, here are some pieces of advice that actually helped me navigate pregnancy in my 20s: